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If he wants out of the marriage, there's little you can do to keep him

kalantri on Family - Dear Neil: My husband left me four weeks ago. We have been married for two years, together for four, and have two children, ages 4 and 2. I was pregnant when we met, and am now 27 (he is 24). We have been fighting a lot, and he is often angry at me. Frequently he rages at me, and he's hit me several times.

But I'm not ready to give up on him, and I forgive him. I was sexually and physically abused as a child, and I consider him my best friend. So recently I gave him a gift: a picture of us when we first married (with the wedding vows written around it), and an engraved bracelet. He threw them in my face. I asked if he still loved me,and he said no. But I love him, and I don't know what to do.

He doesn't see the kids unless I drive him (he doesn't have a car), and he's refusing to pay any child support. He also won't talk to me anymore, is nasty toward me and blames me for everything that has gone wrong. He says he does not want to be with me anymore, and has pushed me and the kids completely away. I am afraid of letting him go. Please help. — All Alone in New Zealand

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