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Sticks and Stones

forgiveness on Articles - Have you ever had your feelings hurt? Chances are that if you're alive and over the age of 5, you have had someone hurt your feelings. Sometimes it's not a big deal and you move on with your day. Other times it's more dramatic.

As silly as it may sound, the old nursery rhyme"sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me" isn't entirely true. Many people take offense and turn them into life long grudges. Words and actions are powerful.

There are a lot of questions that you should ask yourself if you feel like someone has mortally offended you. How is it affecting you? In most cases, people that are offended change their attitudes and actions. Often times, we do it out of spite or to teach some the offender a lesson. It doesn't change them it changes us.

1. Don't take it personal. He (or she) who takes offense where none is intended is a fool. I often will hear something some one says and I will automatically psychoanalyze the statement and look for ways to apply it to myself. It's natural to be self-conscious and self aware, but like all good things, too much is too much.

Like my father used to tell me when I was a small boy, "the world does not revolve around you." He was right -- don't take it personal, it's probably not directed at you personally.

2. Think about it. Is it true? Now that you have some of the paranoia relieved, some comments are directly aimed at you, your actions, personality and groups you identify with. Think about it before you react. Having the courage to cross-examine your self is not easy. It takes a truly open mind to look at yourself objectively.

3. Forgive. The power of forgiveness is a miracle you can live everyday. When we forgive others for their trespasses against us, whether perceived or actual, we touch the human soul. In most cases the one we touch is our own.

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