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How to embrace forgiveness - Tips for letting go of anger so you can prosper

forgiveness on Resources - The ability to forgive others can be challenging. But whether you've been betrayed, feel abandoned, or experienced a loss of a loved one, experts say embracing forgiveness is essential for moving forward and healing your emotional wounds.

Here are some tips for embracing forgiveness and healing your wounds:

Start small.

"Forgiveness is a marathon, not a sprint," St. Augustine said. "It might take years—as it did for me. But the willingness to forgive is the starting point. Most people won't even start the process because if they let go of something, they worry that makes the person they're upset with right.

"Forgiveness is not condoning anything. It's letting go of everything."

Forgive yourself.

"I have friends who lost children in car accidents and they can't forgive themselves for not spending more time with the kids before they left the house," St. Augustine said. "I don't think you can forgive another person until you start with yourself, because you are projecting onto them what you have not done for yourself. "

Make a plan.

"Sometimes we think if we don't make a decision, that doesn't matter, but that's not true," Franklin said. "No decision is a decision. That's a conscious choice. You are saying, 'I didn't really do anything and look what happened to me.' That's passive-aggressive and it can cause chaos.

"When you speak your truth, you're taking an active stance in your life. That's not being a victim. It's taking charge."

It's never too late.

"Probably the biggest forgiveness that can occur is when we are willing to forgive someone who has died," Franklin said. "Allow yourself to accept the reality that forgiveness can still occur even though they're not here. Maybe it's asking someone you trust to [stand in for the person who died] and let you say the things you need to say."

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