Forgiveness is a form of suffering. Yes, you read that right.
Most of us talk about forgiveness and always speaks of how wonderful it is. But there is a reason so many can’t seem to forgive — it requires a willingness to suffer.
When people commit an offense against us, our natural inclination is to commit an offense against them. Not just any offense, but an offense that is bigger, badder, and one that hurts far more.
We call this revenge.
We tell ourselves that justice has been se
We live in a tumultuous time when the evidence of the fruits of revenge are all about us. From the fall out of 9/11 to the struggles in Syria and around the world, we see how violence begets violence. There are even TV dramas and reality shows on revenge. In the midst of this, the Oates seminar on the healing power of forgiveness seems like a perfect discipline.
How do we choose to forgive? How do we forgive? What are the effects of holding a grudge or seeking revenge? Can we find a way
We are in a season traditionally devoted to good will among people and to the renewal of hope in the face of hard times. As we seek to realize these lofty ideals, one of our greatest challenges is overcoming bitterness and divisiveness. We all struggle with the wrongs others have done to us as well as those we have done to others, and we recoil at the vast extent of injury humankind seems determined to inflict on itself. How to keep hope alive? Without a constructive answer to toxic anger,
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance — but if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dea